The moment
we are forced out from our mother’s womb and our umbilical cord is cut, we are
alone in this world, in this Universe. Everything that we see, hear, taste,
smell, touch, everything that we think, imagine, fantasy, everything that we
feel is inherently inside us. There is a definite and tangible barrier between
us and the Other. Two enclosed, shiny entities, hosting sparkling universes
inside them, but separated by enormous spaces, by vacuum. There are clearly
defined outlines that draw the two creatures, the two so distinct earthlings.
So when
they try to communicate with each other, one has to translate the thoughts in
his mind and the emotions in his heart into words, the basic unit which has the
consistency of reality. But the words can never actually encompass entirely the
feelings that we have and the images that our thinking is creating. So the
paths that two persons sketch between each other are blurred. They gaze into
each other’s eyes having just a glimpse of the Other, never really guessing the
wide landscape within. Therefore we walk through life being alone, trying to
learn the laws of the universe, of life, of society, trying to fit, to create
frail bridges toward the people around us, so we can have our dose of
understanding and connection.
But there
is a time, for very few, lucky people, when you encounter a bright, powerful
star, that sends its rays right through your heart, melting all the barriers
and making you so transparent that all the content from within becomes visible
for the other one. And as you get closer and closer and as you can finally feel
his warmth, you can see clearly, even though you are blinded by his brightness,
his core. You are caught in the natural attraction that manifests upon you and
you can guess that his core is made by the same substances as yours is, that it
is guided by the same laws as you are, that he pulsates in the universe in a
rhythm very, very similar as yours.
This
uncommon star succeeds to fill the space and the vacuum between you and the
Other, blurs the borders of your beings, so the Other doesn’t exist anymore,
but becomes “ mine “. There is no more a clear distinction between your inside
and your outside, his inside and his outside. You meet at the middle, in a divine
space, that is called love and that makes
possible for two human beings, after long time they have been chased away from
their mother’s womb, not to be alone anymore. The reciprocal understanding between
the two is felt like, instead of having two pairs of eyes, now there is only
one pair: one eye from you, one from your beloved, but the image that is coming
from the universe is consistent and full of meaning. The connection between the
two is felt like magic, because the mind was caught by surprise by the idea
that such a person can exist: a person with whom although the humble servants,
the words, are doing their job incompletely, the message is fully understood…
And after
meeting such a person, who manages to conquer the tremendous, immensurable
space between your inside and the Other, the concepts of time and physical space
look like jokes… This powerful encounter, that brushed away the barriers of the self, makes
you accumulate so much energy and confidence that, although you are a tiny
speck in a huge galaxy, you feel that everything is possible.
And
everything is possible, indeed. With you. By your side.
